Here's the question? Is your marriage effective or efficient? In our Celebrate Your Marriage conferences this spring we touch on this a bit but in speaking with couples afterwards, I believe that we have stumbled on to something....hmmmmm...
So here is the thing~ send me your thoughts about your marriage and whether it is efficent or effective. Here is an example:
The trend in house building and design according to contractors and architects is two master bedrooms. They are saying that by the year 2016, 60% of all homes will have two master bedrooms. Why? Because it is efficient. Due to different sleeping habits, busy schedules, etc. Couples would rather have two different bedrooms than to work thru the issues and challenges!
YIKES!!!
Another example would be a woman who cannot rest and sit at night and enjoy her husband because there are dishes to be done, clothes to be washed. etc.
We need to identify these areas in our marriages where we strive so to be efficent and neglect being effective!
Let me know what you think~Laura
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Hi Laura and Jay!
We heard all your messages just one weekend ago at the Grand Hotel and have been trying to remember all of them since our return to the "rat race". I certainly related to the efficiency mode during most of my marriage to Howard. It usually harmed our relationship and drained the fun out of working on anything together. After 8 years of marraige, we learned to better communicate our feelings about stuff like that by attending a Marriage Encounter Weekend and joining a support group back home. We are always on the look out for ways to improve our relationship and that is why we felt SO BLESSED AND SPECIAL in the times that we shared with YOU all. This December we'll be celebrating 37 years of marriage! Thanks for helping us to remember that the last half can be the best half. We will always have work to do on it...but what a prize!!
Peace to you,
Marybeth and Howie
(Annie's Aunt and Uncle from Cadillac)
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