Monday, December 29, 2008

The Christmas that wasn't really was...


We had quite the interesting Christmas at the Laffoon household. One of Torrey's gifts didn't arrive. Many of Grace's gifts didn't fit (she's grown an inch and a half in 2 months). One of Grace's gifts we bought off eBay arrived broken. Some of Jay's gifts didn't fit...NO COMMENT! And last but not least a gift Jay ordered for Laura in November, was made December 10th still (as of the writing of this blog) hasn't SHIPP#D! And N@ these &rn't typ*'s if you get my dr!ft!!!!

We've spent the weekend returning gifts (I have a Mall HANGOVER). Emailing eBay, and various others to see where the gifts are in the shipping process. Spent much energy undoing all the done wrong gifts...again you get the drift.

Anyway, in spite of all the Christmas blunders, this past weekend was filled with laughter, family, friends and the love that Christmas brings. So in fact it was a fantastic Christmas...Christmas as it is meant to be. Here's to a Happy New Year!


J&L

Saturday, December 20, 2008

A "Dread"-Filled Day!

It's 10am on Saturday morning here at the Laffoon house and in an hour and a half we are going to host a "Dread head" party. A good number of friends and family will descend on our house for Pizza, movies and about 4 hours of turning Torrey into a "Bob Marley" wanna-be. (Minus the Marijuana of course)

Torrey has been growing his hair out for about 6 months now all in anticipation of turning his beautiful head of hair into a glorified house mop! However if there is one thing I've learned in my years as a parent it is to pick my battles wisely.

Would I prefer him to "dread" his hair? NO, but that really isn't a battle I feel needs to be waged. He's a good kid, no, he's a great kid and the battles I'll look to fight are: when he is not respecting his sister or his mom, when he treats people with injustice, or when he fails to confront things that are just plain wrong! So today I'll live with the hair and in 30 years (Lord willing) we'll all look back with a grin!

And here's the finished product! By the way...that 4 hour project turned out to be 8!


"Hair's" to YOU!

Jay

Thursday, December 11, 2008

IT IS FINISHED!

Do you know how you feel at the beginning of a large project? Overwhelmed, daunted by the task, wondering how you'll ever get it all done?

Then the feelings of ELATION when the project is finished? Well today Laura and I are doing a "Happy Dance" as we sent the final chapter of our latest book to our copy editor. She'll clean it up and make it read like a "proper English book" then January 1st it's off to the Publisher!

45,000 words of "wisdom"...OK maybe "wisdom" is a stretch but none the less Powerful Words Your Spouse Needs to Hear is DONE!

For now that is...after the editorial staff a Baker Publishing gets a hold of it we'll have revisions and revisions and revisions...but a year from now, that's right, I said a YEAR (Welcome to the publishing world!) you'll be able to read for yourself the book we just finished!

As for now we'll just keep doing the "Happy Dance"

Blessings~

J&L

Tuesday, December 09, 2008

so it has been a week....but still it was the best and worst birthday!

So last Wednesday was my 46th birthday! I love birthdays and christmas and any opportunity to celebrate! Celebrations are huge around our house! so here is what happened.....

Jay told the kids the night before that we were waking them up early so we could celebrate my birthday before school. They were given fair warning! So, Grace gets up at 6:30 am and Torrey drags himself down the stairs and 6:45 and promptly plops his body on the couch and goes back to sleep! Jay being Jay starts singing, "Happy birthday to you..." The kids start screaming for him to stop! "It is too early" Torrey yells, " I am still sleeping!" Jay continues to sing...Grace then yells are her dad for irritating her brother! I am watching the whole thing in disbelief! It is my birthday and my kids are yelling because they do not want to sing to me! Needless to say I was hurt, but kept my mouth shut...for a few minutes.

After a while, Jay began to discuss with the kids the err of their ways and they got mad at us for being mad at them for not wanting to sing to me for my birthday! They left for school mad at Jay and I and never once said Happy Birthday mom! Ungrateful kids! I was beginning to wonder who raised these children
Well, this is where it gets good....At 3:00 p.m. my children stroll into my house bearing flowers and apologies for their morning behavior! I got great big long hugs and love and kisses! I knew we had raised them right!!?



It was the worst/best birthday ever!

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Tis the Season

Most of you know that Laura is a Christmas FREAK! We have to put up the decorations the day after Thanksgiving...yada yada yada...Well this year I had enough...saying "We" have to put up decorations is like the little kid who says "WE killed a bear and Pa shot it!" If WE put up the decorations why am I the one doing all the work, while Laura decides what goes where!!??!!

So I took matters in my own hands and put up decorations as I saw fit...here is a picture!


Merry Christmas!

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

DRAMA in the House!

This morning while getting ready for school, Grace was in the laundry room getting her bag ready for dance lessons. Laura, Torrey and I were in the living room having devotions. All of a sudden we hear a shriek and Grace blurts out "Who's there!".

Laura said "no one...you're running late...get your bag around!" Not ten seconds later, another shriek and a "Something is in this house and it's following me!" I replied "Nonsense! This house has been locked all night, nothing is following you!"

At this point Grace came into the living room shaking like a leaf..."Can't you hear that noise? It sounds like a bird chirping around my head!" At this point its all we can do to keep our cool, but I calmly said "Grace come here there's nothing wrong." She took two steps and froze in her tracks..."There" two more steps and this time I heard the little bird chirping too...hmmm

"Grace, take two more steps." There it was again...that chirping sound and it was coming from Grace's foot! Come to find out, she'd ruptured the air bag in the heel of her tennis shoe and every time she took a step with her left foot her shoe would "chirp".

Everyone including Grace cracked up! Something WAS following her...a spooky shoe.

It's those little moments of laughter in life we all need to appreciate. They serve as a gentle reminder that the apples don't fall far from the tree! Grace gets her "drama" from me and her mental instability from Laura :-)

Have a BLESSED DAY!

Jay

Thursday, November 13, 2008

Live life to the full!

Each and every day, live life like it is your last...I do not want to be depressing but life's events this week, have made me think about how short life really is....This week the news from friends has been 3 cases of cancer and one unexpected death! These incidents make me ponder what difference am I making each and every day? What do I do with the time I am given each day to bring glory to God? We only have so much time and we do not have the luxury of knowing how much time that is...so ponder these questions....ask yourself are you using the time you have to love your spouse the way they need to be loved...listen to your kids detail out their day...play with your kids...eat dinner as a family...take the time to talk to someone today who you would not normally talk to...the delivery man, the waitress...love those around you the way Jesus would if He were living your life today. We only have so much time!

Living Life to the Full!
Laura

Thursday, November 06, 2008

Laugh...it burns calories!

A minister decided to do something a little different one Sunday morning.
He said 'Today, in church, I am going to say a single word and you are going to help me preach...Whatever single word I say, I want you to sing whatever hymn that comes to your mind.'

The pastor shouted out 'CROSS.'

Immediately the congregation started singing in unison, 'THE OLD RUGGED CROSS.'

The pastor hollered out 'GRACE.'
The congregation began to sing 'AMAZING GRACE'

The pastor said 'POWER.'
The congregation sang 'THERE IS POWER IN THE BLOOD.'

The Pastor said 'SEX' The congregation fell into total silence.

Everyone was in shock. They all nervously began to look around at each other afraid to say anything.

Then all of a sudden, way from in the back of the church, a little old 87 year old grandmother stood up and began to sing 'PRECIOUS MEMORIES.'

Gotta Love Little Old Ladies.

Laugh... it burns calories.

J&L

Friday, October 31, 2008

Why we live in a Small Town~~

Over the years we have often been asked why we choose to live in a small town when we could really do our job from anywhere and have MUCH MORE OPPORTUNITY in a big city...well this story illustrates how we feel...

Courtesy of Mikey's Funnies

An investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellow fin tuna. The banker complimented the fisherman on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.

The fisherman replied, "Only a little while."

The banker then asked why didn't he stay out longer and catch more fish?

The fisherman said he had enough to support his family's immediate needs.

The banker then asked, "But what do you do with the rest of your time?"

The fisherman said, "I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take a nap with my wife, stroll into the village each evening where I play guitar and sing with my friends. I have a full and busy life."

The banker scoffed, "I am a Harvard MBA and I could help you. You should spend more time fishing and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, eventually you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middleman, you would sell directly to the processor, eventually opening your own cannery. You would control the product, processing and distribution. You would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to a big city where you will run your expanding enterprise."

The fisherman asked, "But, how long will this all take?"

To which the banker replied, "15-20 years."

"But what then?"

The banker laughed and said that's the best part. "When the time is right, you would announce an IPO and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions."

"Millions...Then what?"

The banker said, "Then you would retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you would sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take a nap with your wife, stroll to the village in the evenings where you could play your guitar and sing with your friends."

today'sTHOT============================

If you are not content with what you have, you'll never be content with what you want.

Tuesday, October 28, 2008

A new connection!

Okay so I just got done spending too much time on Facebook! Now I know for some of you out there Facebook is a scary thing! But let me tell you, I am having a riot on it! I know the arguement out there that says it is a way to disconnect from real human contact but here is the deal...I am connecting with people that I have not connected with in years!

Former Campus Life kids that have grown up into adults that are raising families and actually remember some of what they learned in Campus Life! A beautiful young mother who was in a grief group I lead while she was in high school who is now helping young children deal with grief in their lives. Friends from college that live so far away that if it was not for Facebook I would not even know where they live or what they are doing. Friends that have been a part of my adult life that have moved away and we can stay connected online. Childhood friends that literally live on the otherside of the country yet we can talk everyday! Friends in my life now, that I do get to see more regularly but we can connect on FB at any given moment.

Facebook is a way to connect and to reconnect. It has truly been a blessing in this Facebookers life. Try it and if you do- friend me so we can stay connected!

Thursday, October 23, 2008

We're off

We're heading out this morning for Atlanta to be guests on Everyday with Marcus and Lisa. We're presenting our Healthy Marriage Healthy Church program to a nationwide television audience.

This is our first opportunity to share this on a national level and so we'd like to ask you to pray for a couple of things:
1. That we would be coherent and understood by the listeners
2. That people would respond, seeing the great need this program fulfills
3. That is might open other media opportunities to present HMHC

Thanks!

J & L

Monday, October 20, 2008

Finding the Magnificent in the Mundane

Every job or career has its good points and its bad points. Most every job also has its MUNDANE moments. Dictionary dot com defines mundane as: common; ordinary; banal; unimaginative. In my job, TRAVEL is the mundane.

Saturday I spent 9 count them NINE hours in the car driving to two different speaking engagements. My day began at 6am as I made my way to Grace Adventures in Mears, MI to speak for a men's retreat sponsored by Mt. Pleasant Community Church. Driving due west, the sunrise coming up behind me drew out the brilliance of the fall foliage as every new corner and hill brought a refreshing picture of God's creation...it was MAGNIFICENT!

On my way back to Alma to pick up Laura for our Ultimate Date Night in Tekonsha, MI that evening, a detour routed me over the Croton/Hardy Dam. While driving over the dam, I was treated to six (6) STUNNING swans. They were gliding gracefully over the still glass like waters...it was MAGNIFICENT!

Driving down to Tekonsha I spotted something strange in the air. As we kept our eyes on it we soon discovered it was the Blimp flying through a cloudless sky over the Michigan State University football game...we had seen that blimp from over 20 miles away...MAGNIFICENT!

Coming Home at 10pm at night, a big bright 3/4 waning moon rose over the trees to the east. Laura said it looked like a Milano cookie half dipped in chocolate...we watched it rise in amazement...MAGNIFICENT!

As I climbed into bed after midnight, the effects of an 18 hour day, two shows and nine hours on the road had me weary and sore, but before I drifted to sleep I thanked God that in the midst of the mundane, he revealed the MAGNIFICENT!

Look for the MAGNIFICENT in your job, your spouse or your kids today and be blessed by your Father in Heaven!

Jay

Tuesday, October 14, 2008

Do we really care?

Okay so here is the question of the day....

We can all get angry about our financial crisis in our country. We can get indignant about which political party has the best candidate for president. We argue and pontificate via email, Facebook, yard signs, and bumper stickers. Yet marriages are falling apart around us and we sit and watch because it "is none of our business"!

Let me tell you folks, our economy is not going to get any better, our children are not going to be safer, who we put in the highest office of our land is not going to matter until we make marriages our business! We all see people around us who are hurting in their marriages. They have made choices that are not good for their relationship. We can see it in their eyes...the hurt, the sorrow, the loneliness. But we still keep our lips locked tight for fear of offending!

We don't mind offending our neighbor with political verbage, but we don't won't to offend our neighbor with words of wisdom that will restore relationships and bring joy back into their lives.

So the question is: Do we really care?

Thursday, October 09, 2008

2 Chronicles 7:14 - PRAYER FOR OUR NATION

ONE MINUTE EACH NIGHT.... 9:00 PM Eastern Time.

We all need to be on our knees.

Do you believe we can take God at His word? Call upon His name, then stand back and watch His wonders to behold. This scripture gives us, as Christians, ownership of this land and the ability to call upon God to heal it. I challenge you to do so. We have never been more desperate than now for God to heal our land.

2 Chronicles 7:14 'If my people, which are called by my name shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.'

During WWII, there was an adviser to Churchill who organized a group of people who dropped what they were doing every night at a prescribed hour for one minute to collectively pray for the safety of England , its people and peace. This had an amazing effect as bombing stopped. There is now a group of people organizing the same thing here in America. The United States of America and our citizens need prayer more than ever!!!

If you would like to participate: each evening at 9:00 PM Eastern Time (8:00 PM Central, 7:00 PM Mountain, 6:00 PM Pacific), stop whatever you are doing and spend one minute praying for the safety of the United States, our troops, our citizens, for peace in the world.

If you know anyone who would like to participate, please pass this along.

Someone said if people really understood the full extent of the power we have available through prayer, we might be speechless. Our prayers are the most powerful asset we have.

Thank You. Please pass this on to anyone whom you think will want to join us.

Saturday, October 04, 2008

Busy Saturday

Hello!

We've had a busy Saturday getting ready for Celebrate Your Marriage at Grand Hotel...994 of our "closets" friends are joining us over the next 3 days...

Tonight is Torrey's Sr. Year Homecoming Dance and in the midst of all his preparations he locked two sets of keys in his car...not to worry, a quick call to AAA Michigan and...crisis averted!

Being his Sr. year, the kids are joining us at Grand this fall...so please say an extra prayer for us :-)

C-YA!

J & L

Monday, September 29, 2008

He is growing up!





Every mother comes to a point of realization that her children are growing up! Maybe it is when you move from diapers to big kid pants? Or maybe when they go to kindergarten for the first time? Or maybe when they go on their first date!?!?

I must be a slow learner! Torrey is in his senior year of high school and for some reason it is just now dawning on me that he is growing up! I think the realization that he will be leaving is just hitting home. I am a blubbering mom on any given day at any given event!

Last night was no different! We had parent's night at our youth group. Seems harmless enough and not necessairly a place for me to let the tears flow! But alas....

Torrey is a the leader of the the Youth Worship band and as they were leading us in worship last night I was overcome with the realization that not only was he going to be leaving us next year but what a fine young man he had become! I would like to take credit for it but since it seemed to happen in the blink of an eye...? I stood and watched himn sing and play guitar not only in front a large group of his peers but their parents as well. I was over come with emotion to the point that I could not sing! I was also aware that we do the best we can and thankfully the Lord is in charge! Jesus has made Torrey into the wonderfully talented young man he is!

I have a feeling it is going to be a long year for this mama! I will survive, but I think many tears will be shed and that is okay!

Hug your kids today! (for me!)

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Headin' South

We're very excited as we head to Lexington SC this weekend, just outside Columbia for an Ultimate Date Night with The Harvest Church!

In the midst of the obvious turmoil our country is in...Election year, bailouts, and an economy that is in question, let's not forget to keep OUR priorities in order and focus on the Lord, your spouse and your kids...in that order :-)

God is in control!

Blessings~

J & L

Thursday, September 18, 2008

Practicing what we preach and it's KILLING ME!

Laura and I are getting away for the weekend trying to practice the things we tell married people they need to do! We're heading to northern Michigan for some golf, sight-seeing and a couple of good restaurants!

BUT...Do you know what I gave UP this weekend? A free all expense paid trip to the Ryder Cup! For those of you that don't know golf...this is HUGE!HUGER!! HUGEST!!!

My friend Bill Hobson of Michigan Golf Live Radio had an extra press pass and room in his van for me to attend the entire Ryder Cup weekend...BUT I committed to go with Laura...

Yes she's worth it...no doubt more important than GOLF...but seriously this event only comes to the states every four years...it's like the Olympics only better because? IT'S GOLF!

Ok ok ok enough of my whining...can I just get a little credit for keeping my priorities straight?

Have a great weekend...we will :-)

Jay & Laura

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Girlz Night Out!


Sometimes I feel like it isn't right to call what I do a "job"! We travel to really beautiful places like Grand Hotel on Mackinac Island, MI. We meet tons and tons of people that warm our hearts! Take for instance last Friday night...I was asked to do "entertain and inspire" ladies at Girlz Night Out hosted by 99.7 Family Life Radio. We had a blast! The evening was located on the Bavarian Belle in Frankenmuth, MI. We had dinner on the boat and after my "entertaining and inspiring" time, we cruised down the Cass River on the boat.

It was a great night of meeting ladies from all around Michigan, laughing and having fun together! The privilege I have of being with people, laughing, encouraging, listening to their stories is one for which I am truly grateful!

Thursday, September 11, 2008

A Best Seller!

Okay so I have to be honest...the other day, Jay sent me a "A Father's Reflections" via emai and asked me what I thought about it. I read it and replied back that I thought it was a bit on the sappy side but a good poem.

Now, understand what was going on inside my head as I read this poem: Jay frequently sends me stuff he finds on the internet and asks my opinion before we use them for something- blog, promotional news, etc. - I was surprised that he had "found" this poem and run it by me. I thought it was his "normal" find!

Come to find out- HE WROTE IT!

After, I responded that I thought it was a bit sappy, he went into this whole deal about how I don't understand him at all! He went on by saying that he could get sappier! I still did not get what he was trying to tell me! I just laughed...

Then as I am laughing...he says, " You know, when I die you can just take my journal and publish all my poems. You will probably make a lot of money off that book. After I am dead and gone."

THAT WAS WHEN IT HIT ME! HE WROTE "A FATHER'S REFLECTIONS" !!! Well that changed everyting...what a sensitive man I married! I was really and truly full of admiration for him and that fact that he wrote that poem! But it was too little too late.....

So I am trying to make amends for be insensitive in the first place by letting all of you know that Jay wrote that poem that he posted the other day. I am telling you all how proud I am of him and his ability to write his heart on paper!

I am also letting you know that the minute he dies...there will be a new bestseller on the shelves!

Thanks for reading and if you enjoyed "A Father's Reflections" let Jay know by commenting!

Tuesday, September 09, 2008

A Fathers Reflection

A Father’s Reflection

From starry skies to foaming seas
I see the signs – your love for me

A baby’s laugh a good friends grin
Your love displayed, it pulls me in

A wretched man, my sin, my shame
I’m only cleansed by Jesus Name

His name alone can calm the sea
His blood the Cross has set me free

I’m thankful for my wife and kids
And also for, what Jesus did

Lord hear my prayer that is my plea
What is the life you have for me?

Monday, September 08, 2008

"Hurry!"


How many times a day do you find yourself saying "hurry!" If you are like me, I say it at least several times each morning to a slow child not wanting to go to school. I say it every sunday morning when the preacher is not done and my stomach is growling! I say it to myself as I run each day and just want to be finished with the pain!

How much do we miss in life by living in a "hurry!"? It is like a good book. I always want to get to the end and see what happens that I skip over some important details of the story. When we live in a "hurry!" we are missing some important details of the story God has for us.

If we are always thinking we must "hurry!", we will live our lives in a "hurry!" and miss out on some of the journey. One of my favorite sayings is "Dance like no one is watching, love as though you have never been hurt, sing like no one is listening, and live as though heaven is on earth"

Slow down today and enjoy the journey!

Wednesday, September 03, 2008

Some people just don't GET IT!

Have you ever had a conversation with someone who is totally clueless? I don't mean to belittle or sound mean, but someone who truly can't see your point of view because it literally doesn't exist in their paradigm?

As someone who studies marriage, works with marriages, and yes struggles through this thing called marriage, it boggles my mind when someone who's been MARRIED for 20+ years can't understand some of the simplest truths about relationships. I'm not talking about an uneducated crack head here, I'm talking about people with a PHD for crying out loud.

Here's the truth: if you are married, everything that occurs in your marriage impacts the rest of your life. Also everything that occurs in the rest of your life impacts your marriage!

Now there are degrees of impact of course. If I have a good or bad day on the golf course, it is certainly not going to impact my marriage as much as if I have a heart attack, but the point is that "bad" golf game will have some spill over into my union with Laura because we are ONE!

For most people the problem comes in the fact that they "do their own thing" in marriage and never understand the beauty of becoming ONE with their spouse in every aspect of their lives.

Thanks for letting me RANT!

Jay

Thursday, August 28, 2008

Back to school!

Back to school is always a bitter sweet time for me! I love summer and having some fun hangout time with my kids, yet there is a point where I am ready for them to head back to school and for us all to return to a "normal" schedule!

"Back to school" shopping is always a fun day with the kids. Torrey, Grace and I headed to the shops yesterday in search of jeans, shoes, and school supplies. The day made me realize a few things:


1. Grace is growing like a weed! She is now in a bigger shoe size than I am!
2. Torrey is on his way out! He is taking an easy schedule as a senior and did not even need school supplies!!
3. Torrey is more interested in friends than fam! He spent the entire day attached to his phone, except when mom was buying him clothes.
4. Grace is a tweenager! Jewelry and fashion were a must!
5. No matter how old they get, they still fight about who sits in the front seat!
6. A year from now, Torrey will be in college and it will be just Grace and I going shopping!

Celebrate the moment now!

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Be Informed!

Ok so we're getting political. Or at least as political as we're gonna get. I don't know if you saw the Saddleback Civil Forum on the Presidency, but we thought it was very well done, and that some very good questions were asked. These are certainly not ALL the questions that should be answered by the candidates, but it is a good start, and the link below will allow you to see how the candidates answered the same question.

Enjoy and Be INFORMED!

Click here to view

Wednesday, August 20, 2008

Perception VS Truth

For over 20 years I have been bothered deep in my soul by the phrase “Perception is reality”.

I could never put my finger on my uneasiness until I heard this statement; “Perception is reality until confronted with the Truth… When perception intersects the Truth, everything becomes clear, we can no longer justify, we can no longer argue, we can no longer be deceived, because Truth cannot change.”


Do not fret because of evil men
or be envious of those who do wrong;
For like the grass they will soon wither,
like green plants they will soon die away.

For,
"All men are like grass,
and all their glory is like the flowers of the field;
the grass withers and the flowers fall.

To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said,
"If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples.
Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free."

Jesus answered, "I am the way and the truth and the life.


May your reality today be found in the TRUTH of Jesus and may the world’s perception of you be found in His Grace.

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

Take the survey!

Jay and I will be writing our next book here in the upcoming months and we need your help! We have a little survey we want you to take:

For women:
1. If you could change anything about men, what would you change? You cannot change anything about the nature of men.i.e. I wish he would desire less sex. Think about men in general, not just your husband or boyfriend.
2. Finish this sentence: I wish men would _________________ more.
3. Finish this sentence: I wish men would _________________ less.


For men:
1. If you could change anything about women, what would you change? You cannot change anything about the nature of women.i.e. I wish she would desire more sex. Think about women in general, not just your wife or girlfriend.
2. Finish this sentence: I wish women would _________________ more.
3. Finish this sentence: I wish women would _________________ less.

When you send us your answers in the comment section of the blog,let us know if you are male or female!

Thanks for your help!

Have a great day!

Saturday, August 09, 2008

It's HEATING UP!

We're still in Arizona but couldn't wait to tell you all the great things that are going on for marriages! We've had sold out standing room only Ultimate Date Nights out here in Phoenix! A wonderful time at the AMFM Conference where we not only connected with some old friends but made many new ones as well!

AAAAANNNNNND...we've been getting reports from our Healthy Marriage Healthy Church teams about the super cool things they have going on for marriages in their church! Date Nights, Getaways, Fireproof the Movie and so much more. We're here to let the world know that marriage is meant to be a CELEBRATION and along with all our great friends out there we're going to show you how! KUDOS to everyone for helping us wave the flag for marriage!

Blessings!

J & L

Saturday, August 02, 2008

Headin' out

Just wanted you all to know we are headin' out to lovely, steamy, hot, dry Arizona. We are speaking at a conference there and doing 3 Ultimate Date Nights! We are so lucky too because Arizona is having a cool front move in...it is cooling off to 105!!!! Enjoy your week and we will be in touch!

Have a great weekend!
Laura

Thursday, July 31, 2008

Up and OUT!


Torrey is a senior this coming year and we are already realizing that in a year he will be heading off to college. WOW! It seems like only yesterday he was 10 years old, running around in camouflage scaring the neighbor ladies as he and his friends played “commando”.

We are planning all sorts of ways to make his senior year memorable. We’re going to read through Oswald Chambers devotional “My Utmost for His Highest” together this year. Taking a very special trip over Spring Break, and praying his memories of family will be fond.

Time Ticks for every family…don’t let your kids grow up and OUT with out INTENTIONALLY making some memories. Join us for Celebrate Your Family December 5-7 at Spring Hill camp to make some memories you and your kids will never forget! Visit www.celebrateyourfamily.com to register or for more information.

Monday, July 28, 2008

A Divine appointment…INVEST IN YOUR SPOUSE?

A friend of mine is a stock broker and recently relayed this story.

He was on the phone with a client who was bemoaning the fact that she was always exhausted. She worked full time and when she came home devoted her total attention to her 5 year old daughter until it was time for the daughter to go to bed. Then, the client relayed she would collapse into bed and start all over the next day.

At this point my friend stopped with the financial advice and asked “Can I give you some personal advice?” “Sure” replied the client. My friend then said he felt led by the Lord to tell his client that she needed to come home from work and focus on her husband instead of the daughter.

He went on to say that there was a period in his marriage where his wife was a great mother but not a great wife and that their marriage went “sideways” for about 10 years. He said that by focusing on her husband, the daughter would be better off in the long run.

The client then told my friend that there had been a few times in her life where she felt “direct Divine intervention” and that this was one of those times. She was going to go home and talk this through with her husband and begin to focus on him.

My friend said he left work that day feeling better than if he’d sold a million dollars in stock!

Invest in your spouse and reap both immediate and eternal dividends.

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Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Whew! I am tired!

Jay and I left Sunday for a whirlwind trip to Virginia Beach, VA. We had the privilege to be guests on Living the Life. LTL is a talk show on CBN. We had a great time meeting the ladies, Louise, Terry, and Carolyn of LTL! They are a hoot! We got up at 4 a.m. this morn to head back home- thus the "whew, I am tired!"

We have had a great time traveling around and being guests on some great TV shows! BUT it is always nice to be home. Especially when it is 101 degrees in VA and 75 in MI!

We have more travel to go before the summer is over....Springfield, MO this weekend and the first week in August, we take Grace to a Phoenix. We will be speaking and attending the AMFM conference and Grace will be visiting a friend of her's who moved last year! That will be a blast for her!

Hopefully we will get some quiet time in August before school starts! I really don't even like saying that phrase let alone typing it!

Well, that is all I have for today! My brain is sleeping!

Hope you are having a wonderful summer! Share with us some of your favorite summer memories!

Laura

Saturday, July 19, 2008

Blessed to be a BLESSING!

The Laffoon's were blessed this last week to spend some quiet time away at a lake cottage of some very good friends. We boated, sea-dooed slept in and did a whole lot of NOTHING...It was a great break in the middle of the summer and we really appreciated the kind gesture.

It got Laura and I thinking...we were all put on this earth to be a blessing to others. I know most of us don't have a Lake Cottage to bless others with, but we all can still be a blessing.

Maybe it's something as simple as baking cookies for a neighbor or paying for the car behind you in the toll booth. Whatever your means and whatever your opportunity, won't you join us in "paying it forward" and blessing someone in your world?

What fun it could be!

Saturday, July 12, 2008

A Moving Night at Lifest

Last night Laura and I spoke on the Main Stage at Lifest. Denver and the Mile High Orchestra warmed up the crowd. If you've never heard them you need to check 'em out. If you like Chicago, Blood, Sweat and Tears, Earth Wind and Fire or any other rock band that features a great horn section you'll love D&MHO!

We were privileged to speak on behalf of Compassion International and challenged the crowd to Celebrate Life by reaching out to children who need hope.

The night culminated with Steven Curtis Chapman giving his first concert since the tragic death of his daughter. Steven's teenage boys are now a part of his band playing guitar and drums. Steven opened the show sitting at an acoustic piano and singing Matt Redmans song Blessed be the Name of the Lord. Read these lyrics and you will know the depth and power of the evening we experienced here at Lifest:

Blessed Be Your Name
In the land that is plentiful
Where Your streams of abundance flow
Blessed be Your name

Blessed Be Your name
When I'm found in the desert place
Though I walk through the wilderness
Blessed Be Your name

Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say

Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name

Blessed be Your name
When the sun's shining down on me
When the world's 'all as it should be'
Blessed be Your name

Blessed be Your name
On the road marked with suffering
Though there's pain in the offering
Blessed be Your name

Every blessing You pour out
I'll turn back to praise
When the darkness closes in, Lord
Still I will say

Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name

Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord
Blessed be Your glorious name

You give and take away
You give and take away
My heart will choose to say
Lord, blessed be Your name


In the midst of whatever you may be going through may you be able to sing these words!

Blessings~

J & L

Tuesday, July 08, 2008

I'm not political but this makes sense!

RE-ELECT NOBODY!
Clean up the 545

By Charlie Reese

Politicians are the only people in the world who create problems and then campaign against them.

Have you ever wondered why, if both the Democrats and the Republicans are against deficits, WHY do we have deficits?

Have you ever wondered why, if all the politicians are against inflation and high taxes, WHY do we have inflation and high taxes?

You and I don't propose a federal budget. The president does.

You and I don't have the Constitutional authority to vote on appropriations. Congress does.
You and I don't write the tax code, Congress does.

You and I don't set fiscal policy, Congress does.

You and I don't control monetary policy, the Federal Reserve Bank does.

One hundred senators, 435 congressmen, one president, and nine Supreme Court justices - 545 human beings out of the 300 million - are directly, legally, morally, and individually responsible for the domestic problems that plague this country.

I excluded the members of the Federal Reserve Board because that problem was created by the Congress. In 1913, Congress delegated its Constitutional duty to provide a sound currency to a federally chartered, but private, central bank.

I excluded all the special interests and lobbyists for a sound reason. They have no legal authority. They have no ability to coerce a senator, a congressman, or a president to do one cotton-picking thing.
I don't care if they offer a politician $1 million dollars in cash. The politician has the power to accept or reject it. No matter what the lobbyist promises, it is the legislator's responsibility to determine how he votes.

Those 545 human beings spend much of their energy convincing you that what they did is not their fault. They cooperate in this common con regardless of party.

What separates a politician from a normal human being is an excessive amount of gall. No normal human being would have the gall of a Speaker, who stood up and criticized the President for creating deficits. The president can only propose a budget. He cannot force the Congress to accept it.

The Constitution, which is the supreme law of the land, gives sole responsibility to the House of Representatives for originating and approving appropriations and taxes. Who is the speaker of the House? She is the leader of the majority party. She and fellow House members, not the president, can approve any budget they want. If the president vetoes it, they can pass it over his veto if they agree to.

It seems inconceivable to me that a nation of 300 million cannot replace 545 people who stand convicted -- by present facts -- of incompetence and irresponsibility. I can't think of a single domestic problem that is not traceable directly to those 545 people.
When you fully grasp the plain truth that 545 people exercise the power of the federal government, then it must follow that what exists is what they want to exist.

If the tax code is unfair, it's because they want it unfair.
If the budget is in the red, it's because they want it in the red.

If the Army & Marines are in IRAQ, it's because they want them in IRAQ.

If they do not receive social security but are on an elite retirement plan not available to the people, it's because they want it that way.
There are no insoluble government problems.

Do not let these 545 people shift the blame to bureaucrats, whom they hire and whose jobs they can abolish; to lobbyists, whose gifts and advice they can reject; to regulators, to whom they give the power to regulate and from whom they can take this power. Above
all, do not let them con you into the belief that there exists disembodied mystical forces like 'the economy,' 'inflation,' or 'politics' that prevent them from doing what they take an oath to do.

Those 545 people, and they alone, are responsible.

They, and they alone, have the power.

They, and they alone, should be held accountable by the people who are their bosses - provided the voters have the gumption to
manage their own employees.

We should vote all of them out of office and clean up their mess!


Charlie Reese is a former columnist of The Orlando Sentinel Newspaper.

Thursday, July 03, 2008

Something to Ponder this July 4th

This piece inspired me, perhaps it will you too~ Jay

Meaning of Flag Draped Coffin

All Americans should be given this lesson. Those who think that America is an arrogant nation should really reconsider that thought. Our founding fathers used GOD's Word and teachings to establish our Great Nation and I think it's high time Americans get re-educated about this Nation's history.

Pass it along and be proud of the country we live in and even more proud of those who serve to protect our "GOD GIVEN" rights and freedoms.
I hope you take the time to read this ... To understand what the flag draped coffin really means ... Here is how to understand the flag that laid upon it and is surrendered to so many widows and widowers.

Do you know that at military funerals, the 21-gun salute stands for the sum of the numbers in the year 1776?

Have you ever noticed the honor guard pays meticulous attention to correctly folding the United States of America Flag 13 times? You probably thought it was to symbolize the original 13 colonies, but we learn something new every day!

The 1st fold of the flag is a symbol of life.

The 2nd fold is a symbol of the belief in eternal life.

The 3rd fold is made in honor and remembrance of the veterans departing the ranks who gave a portion of their lives for the defense of the country to attain peace throughout the world.

The 4th fold represents the weaker nature, for as American citizens trusting in God, it is to Him we turn in times of peace as well as in time of war for His divine guidance.

The 5th fold is a tribute to the country, for in the words of Stephen Decatur, "Our Country, in dealing with other countries, may she always be right; but it is still our country, right or wrong."

The 6th fold is for where people's hearts lie. It is with their heart that. They pledge allegiance to the flag of the United States Of America, and the Republic for which it stands, one Nation under God, indivisible, with Liberty and Justice for all.

The 7th fold is a tribute to its Armed Forces, for it is through the Armed Forces that they protect their country and their flag against all her enemies, whether they be found within or without the boundaries of their republic.

The 8th fold is a tribute to the one who entered into the valley of the shadow of death, that we might see the light of day.

The 9th fold is a tribute to womanhood, and Mothers. For it has been through their faith, their love, loyalty and devotion that the character of the men and women who have made this country great has been molded.

The 10th fold is a tribute to the father, for he, too, has given his sons and daughters for the defense of their country since they were first born.

The 11th fold represents the lower portion of the seal of King David and King Solomon and glorifies in the Hebrews eyes, the God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob.

The 12th fold represents an emblem of eternity and glorifies, in the Christians eyes, God the Father, the Son and Holy Spirit.

The 13th fold, or when the flag is completely folded, the stars are uppermost reminding them of their nations motto, "In God We Trust."

After the flag is completely folded and tucked in, it takes on the appearance of a cocked hat, ever reminding us of the soldiers who served under General George Washington, and the Sailors and Marines who served under Captain John Paul Jones, who were followed by their comrades and shipmates in the Armed Forces of the United States, preserving for them the rights, privileges and freedoms they enjoy today.

There are some traditions and ways of doing things that have deep meaning.
In the future, you'll see flags folded and now you will know why.
Share this with the children you love and all others who love what is referred to, the symbol of "Liberty and Freedom."

MAYBE THE SUPREME COURT SHOULD READ THIS EXPLANATION BEFORE THEY RENDER THEIR DECISION ON THE PLEDGE OF ALLEGIANCE.

IN THE MEANTIME, MAY GOD PROTECT US ALWAYS.

ONE NATION, UNDER GOD, WITH LIBERTY AND JUSTICE FOR ALL.

Monday, June 30, 2008

Off to CAMP & Helicopter moms!


Yesterday we took Grace to Spring Hill for a week of Camp Classic "Creative". Which is a typical week of summer camp with an emphasis on dance, music, arts and crafts. Grace will be in heaven! While she was a bit nervous about meeting new friends, she couldn't make us leave fast enough once she met her counselor and cabin mates.

It is always fun to see the Spring Hill staff. We are particularly excited about our joint venture with Spring Hill Celebrate Your Family this December.

We were talking with Spring Hill staff member Mike Krick and he was asking if Laura was nervous about Grace being away...HA! The look on Laura's face must have been classic, because Mike said..."Oh, I get it, there are "helicopter moms" then there's Laura!"

How TRUE! Our kids are blessed with a mom who loves them dearly, but has really done a great job of letting them grow up! Never one to "hover" Laura guides and directs but understands our job as parents is to continually "nudge" them out of the nest!

Blessings~

Jay

Wednesday, June 25, 2008

He's Officially a SENIOR!

We took Torrey to get his Senior Pictures taken today, marking the first of many "senior" activities we will have the fun of going through this next 12 months. Mom and dad were stressed; what poses will we use? What clothes to wear? Where will we take the outdoor shots? So was Torrey stressed...stress? Heck no he's a senior and the world now revolves around him right?...HA!

For his "formal" shot, he ironed and brought to the studio a dress shirt and tie he wore in his freshman year for basketball games. The big goof didn't realize he'd probably grown since his freshman year...he looked like an absolute geek as he tried to button the collar on a shirt two sizes to small. Two things: 1) we did re-schedule the shoot and 2) he gets his goofy-ness from dad and the air-brain from mom!

It seems like just yesterday...
When the doctor almost dropped him during delivery because his head was so much bigger than his body...
When he and his friend Mark were 5 and decide to shut themselves in our church gym lockers to "hide from mom and dad" scaring us all to death thinking they'd been abducted...
When he was 10 and he and his friend Chris would dress up like army men, sneek around neighborhood houses and scare all the moms half to death...
When he was in Jr. High and learned that guitars were "girl magnets"...
When he got his drivers license the day he turned 16 and became our errand boy! Now, gas prices has him running errands on a BIKE!...
When I caught him watching a DVD of a Pom Pon routine just to appease the girl he likes...wait, THAT WAS JUST YESTERDAY!

Great memories and I'm sure we'll have many more this year...

MAN AM I GETTING OLD!

Jay

Sunday, June 22, 2008

What's your story?


Our good friend and head video guru Ryan Koral is running a contest! Ryan is looking for YOUR love story. The winner of this fab contest will receive a free video shoot to document your love story for your family and friends.

To enter the contest simply visit Ryan's site

Have fun!

J & L

Tuesday, June 17, 2008

Reunited!

I am so excited! I am leaving tomorrow for a long weekend getaway. I have 3 childhood friends that hung out together through all of our growing up years. After high school, we went our own way. We have seen each other at a couple weddings and touch based over the years, but this weekend we are going to have a girlfriend reunion! I am in Michigan, another is in Bellingham, WA, another in Nashville, TN and another in Atlanta, GA. We are going to the beach and relax and catch up on each others lives. What a treat it will be to see each other again and hug on each other!

A quote that Jay and I have always liked is, "Friends are the family you choose". These girls have been family since the day we were born and I am extremely blessed to be able to have a family reunion!

Have a great weekend!
Laura

Thursday, June 05, 2008

Careful~ CAREFUL!

Laura and I have long made it a practice not to bash the opposite sex. I mean let's be honest, it's OK for me to pick on men...I'm a man! So it appears to me Laura crossed the line a BIT in her last blog so in an effort to create "equal opportunity" I supply the following...ENJOY!

A wife was making a breakfast of fried eggs for her husband.
Suddenly her husband burst into the kitchen.

"Careful ... CAREFUL! Put in some more butter! Oh my GOODNESS!
You're cooking too many at once. TOO MANY!

Turn them! TURN THEM NOW!

We need more butter. Oh my GOODNESS! WHERE are we going to get MORE
BUTTER?

They're going to STICK! Careful ... CAREFUL! I said be CAREFUL!
You NEVER listen to me when you're cooking! Never!

Turn them! Hurry up! Are you CRAZY? Have you LOST your mind? Don't
forget to salt them. You know you always forget to salt them. Use
the salt. USE THE SALT!

The wife stared at him. "What the heck is wrong with you? You
think I don't know how to fry a couple of eggs?"

The husband calmly replied, "I wanted to show you what it feels
like when I'm driving."

Hee hee

Jay

Wednesday, June 04, 2008

So that's the problem!

I was enlightened this morning by an email and I wanted to share it with you all!

Woman has Man in it;
Mrs. has Mr . in it;
Female has Male in it;
She has He in it;
Madam has Adam in it;

Okay, it all makes sense now...
I never looked at it this way before:
MEN tal illness
MENstrual cramps
MEN tal breakdown
MEN opause
GUY necologist
AND ..
When we have REAL trouble, it's a
HIS terectomy.
Ever notice how all of women's problems start with MEN?


So there we have it Ladies! "THEY" are the problem!

Laura

Tuesday, May 27, 2008

What a "Bump"

Yesterday we were featured on James Robison's Life Today Television show. We were honored to be asked to be on the show and certainly had a fun time with James and Betty. These two are the "real deal". They are authentic and made Laura and me feel like long lost friends.

Publicists talk about how a show can give you a "Bump"...what ever that means, and boy did we feel it! Our web site traffic was up over 700% and we moved to the #7 ranked Christian marriage book on Amazon!

Thanks to all of you who have emailed and wished us well, it means a lot to us!

Blessings!

Monday, May 12, 2008

If Momma ain't happy...

Like most people, I spent yesterday focusing on Mothers! We here in the Laffoon house spent the week thinking about and preparing for Mother's Day.

What were the kids going to get Mom? Gracie made some nice crafts in school and the teenager of course simply "graced" mom with his presence.

What were Laura and I going to get our moms? I got my mom a potted plant and Laura sent her mom a DVD.

And finally...What was I going to get the Mother of my Children? a cute little digital camera (which I was informed was DESPARATELY NEEDED before the teenager went to Prom!)

I further thought of Mothers as church lingered on until 12:30 and countless families got up and left, no doubt with restaurant reservations...

We had a wonderful meal and Laura got to take a 2 hour nap...it was a PERFECT Mothers Day...

Just one other thought...Everyone, and by this I mean EVERYONE will agree with the age old saying..."If momma ain't happy ain't NOBODY happy!" So if that's true, then isn't EVERYDAY Mothers Day?

Your thoughts?

Jay

Thursday, May 08, 2008

A " Laura Moment "!

On February 18, I wrote a blog sharing with you a time that I kept calling my home phone with my cell phone! You all who read this blog on a regular basis will remember and those who do not, can go back a read it!

Anyway, I have had several women come up to me and tell me that they have done the same thing. Of course that has made me feel better, I think! Only most of these women have only had the phone ring once before they caught on, as opposed to my four! They were a bit quicker!

Well I have a kindred spirit! GERENE! My friend,Gerene, came up to me this weekend at our conferences and said," I had a 'Laura Moment'! She proceeded to tell me that she had called herself on her phone and it took three times to figure it out! I love Gerene! She is "my people"!

I especially am honored that she has coined the phrase a "Laura Moment". Please share with me your "Laura Moments"! I would be honored...and if no one does,I will know Gerene and I are all there is to "my people".

Laura

Saturday, May 03, 2008

Heading for Mackinac!

This time of year is always bittersweet as we leave tomorrow morning for our first set of conferences at Grand Hotel.

Sweet because it's such a great place to go and we know God is using this conference to help couples strengthen their marriage.

Bitter because we have to leave the kids again! Please pray for Torrey and Grace (And Gradma and Papa) as we are away, it would mean the world to us!

Blessings~

Jay & Laura

PS~ We'll let you know next week how it went up on the island!
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Wednesday, April 30, 2008

Yes it is true....

For those who have heard me confess, I am not smarter than a fifth grader and I did not get this one either

A few days ago I was having some work done at my local garage. A blonde came in and asked for a seven-hundred and ten.

We all looked at each other and another customer asked, 'What is a seven-hundred and ten

She replied, 'You know, the little piece in the middle of the engine, I have lost it and need a new one..'

She replied that she did not know exactly what it was, but this piece had always been there.

The mechanic gave her a piece of paper and a pen and asked her to draw what the piece looked like.

She drew a circle and in the middle of it wrote 710. He then took her over to another car which had its hood up and asked 'is there a 710 on this car?'

She pointed and said, 'Of course, its right there.'

If you're not sure what a 710 is


Wednesday, April 23, 2008

I thought we were going to start TOMORROW!

Yesterday was Earth Day and our little Gracie came home from school with some great ideas for the Laffoon family to save energy and in turn save our planet. She wanted to write out a plan for conservation and we encouraged her to start!

This morning while getting ready for school, she started to write out the different things we were going to do. As she was writing, Torrey came downstairs and said "Hey conservation girl, why don't you start by going to your room and turning off YOUR lights?" To which Gracie replied, "I don't have time, I have to write out our plan, and besides, I thought we were going to start TOMORROW!"

At this point I said "Grace, the time to start is now, go to your room and turn off your lights." She huffed, slammed down the pen and paper she was writing on, and stomped upstairs.

Just like conservation, NOW is the time to start making changes in our marriages. For example, I've always been pretty good at giving Laura her "Seven Significant Non-Sexual Touches" each day. But recently she told me those "touches" needed to include more KISSES. So, I've been working hard to kiss my wife more each day, because it's what she needs.

So, what can you do TODAY to strengthen your marriage...cause we don't start tomorrow :-)

Blessings~

Jay

Friday, April 18, 2008

Tomorrow is the day!


Ladies,guess what tomorrow is? April 19th is Husband Appreciation Day! Would it not freak out our husbands if we did not tell them but we just were ooey gooey nice and appreciative of everything all day tomorrow? Let's do it! Can we agree? Who knows, we might even find that we like being nice and appreciative!

What do you appreciate about the man that you are spending the rest of your life with? I appreciate Jay's humor. When he laughs or smiles, everyone around does so also. I appreciate his nuturing of our children. He is much better at this than I am. I appreciate how he never tires of telling me he loves me even when I am not very lovable! I appreciate his ceaseless dreaming and visioning that never leaves a dull moment in our lives. I appreciate his love for Jesus and how he gives Grace to others.

Ladies, love on your husbands tomorrow the way they deserved to be loved on everyday!

Laura

Monday, April 14, 2008

Keep your man YOUNG!

We had two fantastic Ultimate Date Nights this weekend, one in Detroit and one in Continental Ohio.

Saturday night in Ohio, we were drawing the show to a close, teaching the couples the "flirt" song (The Celebrate Shuffle). During the night I kept noticing an older couple in the back who were totally into the show and EACH OTHER. Now they were really getting my attention as I am watching this elderly couple dance, and while they danced, he kept patting her on her bottom...funny thing was SHE didn't seem to mind! How FUN!

After the show, Laura and I were signing books and the same 82 year old man I'd been watching all night puts his hand on a 31/2 foot high guard rail and HOPS over the railing like a 25 year old gymnast. He exclaimed "I'm 82 and have been happily married to the same woman for 61 years!"

At that moment his wife joined us and I had to ask about her husbands "overly affectionate" pats on her rear. "Oh heavens, I don't mind...it's what keeps him young!" At this point I turned to her husband and said "YOU ARE MY HERO!"

I hope I can jump over a crack in the sidewalk when I'm 82 let alone a 31/2 foot railing!

Now, where's Laura...I've got a lot of "butt patting" to make up for!

Jay

Saturday, April 12, 2008

Oh my word!

Husbands are so annoying! Can I get an amen!?!? Anyway, Jay has been bugging me because he has written 4 blogs and I have not written one! Can you say " tit for tat?" So here I am, writing a blog! About him! Guess that will show him, huh?

Okay so, probably I should not be writing this blog simply to irritate Jay! Isn't it amazing how the ones you love the most can bring out the worst in you at times!:-) That is why marriage is so fun and yet such hard work. The fun is in the excitement of discovering new things together, having a companion daily with you, someone to laugh with, to do silly things with...to raise children with...wait, is that fun? HMMMMMM....

The hard work is the journey. The small habits that irritate,the stress of daily life, the crisis that makes you question your commitment.

You know, here is what I have decided...when I think Jay is the most annoying individual on the planet, I have to realize that I bet I am no pleasure to live with all the time either! Hard to believe, I know! There are times on this journey that we should focus on our spouse and not always think about ourselves, but I think when our husband or wife is the "most annoying person"in our lives, we should probably focus on our own annoying habits and start there with change.

I am not one for sappy cliches but I do think the one that says "we can't change others we can only change ourselves" bears merit and much thought!

Have a good day and don't let that ONE annoy!

Laura

Monday, April 07, 2008

Questions that haunted me while on vacation

We're back from a FANTASTIC week in Florida! Rest, and relaxation were on the agenda. The only problem when I'm not working is the eternal questions that plague my mind...here are just a few:

Can you cry under water?

Why do you have to 'put your two cents in'... but it's only a 'penny for your thoughts'? Where's that extra penny going to?

Once you're in heaven, do you get stuck wearing the clothes you were buried in for eternity?

Why does a round pizza come in a square box?

What disease did cured ham actually have?

How is it that we put man on the moon before we figured out it would be a good idea to put wheels on luggage?

Why is it that people say they 'slept like a baby' when babies wake up like every two hours?

Why are you IN a movie, but you're ON TV?

Why do people pay to go up tall buildings and then put money in binoculars to look at things on the ground?

Why do doctors leave the room while you change? They're going to see you naked anyway.

Why is 'bra' singular and 'panties' plural?

Why do toasters always have a setting that burns the toast to a
horrible crisp, which no decent human being would eat?

If Jimmy cracks corn and no one cares, why is there a stupid song
about him?

Can a hearse carrying a corpse drive in the carpool lane?

If the professor on Gilligan's Island can make a radio out of a
coconut, why can't he fix a hole in a boat?

Why does Goofy stand erect while Pluto remains on all fours?
They're both dogs!

If Wile E. Coyote had enough money to buy all that ACME crap, why
didn't he just buy dinner?

If corn oil is made from corn, and vegetable oil is made from
vegetables, what is baby oil made from?

If electricity comes from electrons, does morality come from morons?

Do the Alphabet song and Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star have the same
tune?

Why did you just try singing the two songs above?

Why do they call it an asteroid when it's outside the hemisphere, but call it a hemorrhoid when it's in your butt?

Did you ever notice that when you blow in a dog's face, he gets mad
at you, but when you take him for a car ride, he sticks his head out
the window?

Now you know why I can't take two week vacations... :-)

Glad to be BAAAAACK!

Jay

Friday, March 28, 2008

Sunshine Bound!

The Laffoon's leave today for the Sunshine state for a week of R&R! Our road schedule since January 1st has been fun but whew! And we hit the ground running April 7th! We'd love to see you at one of our upcoming events!

Our tapings at Focus on the Family and Life Today with James Robison went great! Thanks to you all for your prayers...now pray it helps sell some books :-)

Have a Blessed week!

Jay & Laura

Sunday, March 23, 2008

Easter

Praise God! I mean shout in the streets~

JESUS IS RISEN!!!

Monday, March 17, 2008

A great story!

We got this great story in an email- let it be a reminder to us all!



When I drove up in my taxi cab at 2:30 a.m., the building was dark except for a single light in a ground floor window.

Under these circumstances, many taxi drivers would just honk once or twice, wait a minute, and then drive away.

But I had seen too many impoverished people who depended on taxis as their only means of transportation. Unless a situation smelled of danger, I always went to the door. This passenger might be someone who needs my assistance, I reasoned to myself.

So I walked to the door and knocked. "Just a minute", answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940s movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets.

There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

"Would you carry my bag out to the car?" she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb.

She kept thanking me for my kindness. "It's nothing", I told her. "I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated".

"Oh, you're such a good boy", she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address, and then asked, "Could you drive through downtown?"

"It's not the shortest way," I answered quickly.

"Oh, I don't mind," she said.

"I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice".

I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. "I don't have any family left," she continued. "The doctor says I don't have very long." I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

"What route would you like me to take?" I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator.

We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl.

Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, "I'm tired. Let's go now."

We drove in silence to the address she had given me.It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.

Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

"How much do I owe you?" she asked, reaching into her purse.
"Nothing," I said

"You have to make a living," she answered.

"There are other passengers," I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly.

"You gave an old woman a little moment of joy," she said.
"Thank you."

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light. Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift?

What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life.

We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware-beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

PEOPLE MAY NOT REMEMBER EXACTLY WHAT YOU DID, OR WHAT YOU SAID, ~BUT~THEY WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER HOW YOU MADE THEM FEEL.

Celebrate today!
Jay & Laura

Friday, March 14, 2008

Word's with Dual Meaning

By now most people get the fact that men and women are different. THANK GOODNESS!

No one needs to read another book about “planets” or “pasta”. Married people just want to know what certain words mean to our spouse. So in our never ending attempts to help couples communicate we thought we’d give you a head start on some important words which hold duel meanings for men and women.

Eight Words with Two Meanings

1. THINGY (thing-ee) n.
Female...... Any part under a car's hood
Male..... The strap fastener on my wife's bra

2. VULNERABLE (vul-ne-ra-bel) adj.
Female.... Fully opening up one's self emotionally to my husband
Male..... Playing football without a cup

3. COMMUNICATION (ko-myoo-ni-kay-shon) n.
Female... The open sharing of thoughts and feelings with one's spouse
Male... Leaving a note before taking off on a fishing trip with the boys

4. COMMITMENT (ko-mit-ment) n
Female.... A desire to get married and raise a family
Male...... Buying season tickets to the Chicago Cubs.

5. ENTERTAINMENT (en-ter-tayn-ment) n.
Female.... A good movie, concert, play or book
Male...... Anything that can be done while watching TV

6. FLATULENCE (flach-u-lens) n.
Female.... An embarrassing byproduct of indigestion
Male...... A source of entertainment, self-expression, male bonding.

7. REMOTE CONTROL (ri-moht kon-trohl) n.
Female.... A device for changing from one TV channel to another
Male.... A device for scanning through all 375 channels every 5 minutes.

8 MAKING LOVE (may-king luv) n.
Female...... The greatest expression of intimacy a couple can achieve.
Male... Call it whatever you want, just as long as we do it.


There you have it...we're here to help!

J&L

Wednesday, March 12, 2008

Laura strikes again!

Okay I hope you all are not getting bored with stories of my antics! But here is another!

Last Monday, I took Grace to volleyball and decided to watch and run while she was there. Our new middle school gym has a track around the top so I could run and watch Grace all at the same time.

Well, I was feeling really good, and volleyball was going to last an hour and a half, so I proceeded to walk a lap and run 5 laps. I continued doing this until I reached 65 laps. I looked at the clock and realized I had a little time to cool down so I began walking more laps. Well, I was wondering exactly how many miles 65 laps would be so I asked the assistant principal,who also happened to be up watching the volleyball girls. She informed me that it takes 13 laps around to make 1 mile. Well being the math genius that I am, I started running again. I had set myself a goal of 3 miles. If 13 laps makes one mile, I had ONLY gone 65 laps and needed 4 more to make 69 laps which, in my mind, would make 3 miles!!!!

My math wizardry did not dawn on me until later that evening, watching our 17 year old playing basketball. During the game, I commented to Jay that my legs were really tired and that I was starving! He asked how many miles I had run and I replied, "Only 3. Kari told me that 13 laps make a mile and I went 69 laps." It was when Jay busted out laughing that I re-calculated my numbers! Oh my! I had gone over 5 miles! No wonder I was tired and hungry!

Well, until next time...Laura

Thursday, March 06, 2008

MOPS and a Quizno's!

Laura is off speaking for MOPS group at Calvary Church in Grand Rapids today. Laura LOVES speaking to MOPS groups and they LOVE having her speak so it's a great fit.

I have to admit it's a nice break for me and Laura too. You see Laura and I often feel like we're attached at the hip (not in the good way :-)) 24/7 because of our ministry together. Day's like today give us a much needed break from each other but at the same time renew our passion to work together.

So Laura is off speaking and shopping. I'll spend the afternoon enjoying a Quizno's Honey Bourbon Chicken Sub (only 260 calories)and writing in SILENCE and we'll both be very very happy campers!

MMMMM....Toasty!


Jay

Saturday, March 01, 2008

We're ready for SPRING!!

I'm not going to complain about the snow, it could be worse...take a look at this picture from upstate New York.


Trust me when I'm saying I am NOT making a political statement when I say...Global Warming???Not THIS WINTER!

I grew up in Petoskey, Michigan and this year we have finally had a winter like I remember growing up. We've had plenty of "snow days" with the kids off school and the blanket of white sure is beautiful. The piles in the parking lot of Grocery stores and Walmart are like mini-mountains.

HOWEVER, I am ready for a change. The sun is shining a little longer each day and the song birds are singing all day long. It has me longing for a change. If there is one thing I really appreciate about Michigan is that we truly have four seasons.

I'm just ready for the NEXT one to start!

How about you?

Blessings~

Jay

Thursday, February 28, 2008

BIG NEWS!!!!

We wanted to share with you some very big news. We have a couple of really cool media opportunities coming up in March:

March 18 Focus on the Family

March 25 Life Today with James Robison

While we know these interviews are not the “end all be all” we do feel honored and humbled by the opportunity. THANKS to you all for helping make these happen.

I’d like to share how God has worked in this process. Earlier this month I turned down two youth engagements I’d normally say yes to because we feel God wants our focus on marriage ministry at this point. The next day we got the call from James Robison.

Monday I said to Laura…I really need to back off the PGA chaplain gig so I can further focus on marriage ministry. This morning I was on the phone with Ben from FCA Golf letting him know our decision and while I’m on the phone with Ben we get the call from Focus on the Family.

Wow~ Thanks again to all of you and your part in this ministry. You BLESS US!

Jay & Laura~

Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Of all the things I've lost, I miss my mind the most!

After a long weekend of travel, Laura, Grace and I went to watch Torrey play a Men's church league basketball game last night. It's really quite fun. I used to play and coach our Men's church league team, then I gave up drinking, smoking cussing and swearing :-) It is amazing how the competitive juices come out even among Christian brothers!

Anyway, last night we watched our Alma 1st Church of God team defeat a scrappy Forrest Hill Church of Christ team. Torrey hit a crucial 3 point shot with less than 2 minutes left in the game that put us up for good!

As we bundled up to leave the game, I began frantically searching my various pockets for the keys to the car. I couldn't find them ANYWHERE! I had sat in a couple of different seats talking with different friends during the game so I began searching everywhere. Being the quiet diminutive type, I soon had the entire gym full of people looking for my keys that I was SURE had fallen out of my sweat pants pocket.

In a final act of desperation, I thought I'd look out in the car (but SERIOUSLY who would leave the keys in the CAR?) That would be me! Wow did I feel old, absentminded and STUPID. In know we live in a small town, but leaving keys in the car for anyone to find is not too smart. Age sure has a way of humbling us all...

So of all the things you've lost...do you miss your mind the most?

Blessings~

Jay

Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Gerty saved our marriage!

As you know, Laura and I travel together A LOT! And as with most married couples there are often discussions in the car about silly things like directions and the best way to get here or there...For us traveling in new towns and cities these silly "discussions" can often lead to major disagreements!

So...last week I spent $200 and bought a portable Garmin GPS system for us to take on the road...simply plug in the address and "Gerty the Garmin" as we've named her will give you turn by turn directions, in her pleasant little voice. She will even tell you your expected arrival time...it's WONDERFUL!

Truly "Gerty" has saved our marriage from numerous unnecessary arguments! Now I just have to get past the fact that a WOMAN is still telling me how to DRIVE!

oh well :-)


Jay

Monday, February 18, 2008

You just can't make this up!

Okay so people always ask us if the funny stories we tell on stage are really true? Look people you can't make this stuff up!

Saturday, I was out running errands and Jay called me on my cell. When I returned home, He went out to run his errands. While he was gone, Grace and I decided we needed him to pick us up some groceries so we could do some baking. So I picked up my cell phone and simply hit the "JAY" number that he had called me on earlier, assuming it was his cell.

As I am calling him, my home phone rings.Dilemma! Do I hang up before Jay answers and answer the home phone or do I simply let the home phone ring? I hung up on Jay and answered the home phone- I couldn't believe it, the person had hung up! All I got was a dial tone! Maddening!

So I called Jay back. Again my home phone rings! I don't recognize the caller id phone number and it says "out of area", but I hang up on Jay again because he is not answering anyway and again the home phone is nothing but a dial tone!

Now, I am about ready to scream! So I wait a few minutes to give Jay time to see I have called his cell. I dial him again and what do you think happens? My home phone rings again! Now this time I am going to give this person a piece of my mind! So once again I hang up on Jay and answer the home- again dial tone!!!

Well, needless to say I did this one more time before I realized as you probably already have that I was dialing my home phone the entire time I thought I was dialing Jay's cell! I was hanging up on myself! I was the person I was going to give a piece of my mind too...somehow a piece of my mind does not sound very promising right now!

See, we just can't make this stuff up!

Thursday, February 14, 2008

Happy Valentine's Day!

Here's hoping you and your loved ones enjoy a GREAT day of LOVE!

We just returned from a live radio remote in Williamston MI with our friends at Family Life Radio. Laura and I have literally been on air all day with 6 different radio stations from FL to CO and many states in between.

As we were wrapping up our time live with WUGN Peter Brooks interviewed "Martha" who is 35 and has only been a Christian for 5 years. When she heard our names mentioned throughout the day, she felt like she just had to call in...you see we met Martha 20 years ago when we were Youth for Christ leaders here in Central Michigan.

Martha said that while she had only been a believer for 5 years that the "seeds of her faith" were planted when she was 14 and went on a trip with us and YFC.

NEVER underestimate the power of the Holy Spirit to transform lives, even if it's 20 years down the road. Be faithful in your witness and let God do the rest.

We never imagined such a great Valentine gift would be ours today!

Blessings~

Jay & Laura

Tuesday, February 12, 2008

Honey...It's London Calling

I know the world is shrinking faster than ever, but the coolest thing just happened!

Laura and I have been promoting our new book The Spark since it's release January 15th by hitting the road for our Ultimate Date Night show and conducting countless radio and television interviews.

Today, we were interviewed Live on Premiere Radio in London England. It was the wildest thing chatting with the hosts who's accent was so FUN and realizing that we were impacting couples half way around the globe!

Our first four book tour Ultimate Date Nights were "Sold Out" and the response has been terrific! We'd love to see you at one of our upcoming events go to: clik here to find a show near you!

Blessings~

Jay

Thursday, February 07, 2008

Snowed IN!

We are officially "SNOWED IN" here at Celebrate! We've received over 12 inches of fresh snow in the last 24 hours...coupled with 30 mile an hour winds, you can imagine it was close to a "White out!"

So today is filled with kids out of school, Torrey gripping about shoveling (I'm SO glad we have teenager in the house!) and Laura and I getting ready for another weekend of Ultimate Date Nights.

For those of you who don't know we are on a bit of a "Book Tour" promoting our new book The Spark now through March, conducting a series of "Ultimate Date Nights" music, comedy and fun for couples. We "sold out" two shows last weekend in Alpena and Alma and this weekend we have two more "SELL OUTS" in Charlotte and Winston-Salem, NC. For a listing of future shows near you click here.

If you think of us, breathe a prayer over the next two months for our travels, our kids and my sister and parents who are helping with the kids!

Blessings~

Jay

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Evan Almighty Was Right!

Last week we had a family movie night. We told Torrey and Grace to go together and pick out a movie that we would all enjoy. They came home with Evan Almighty. It was great movie! I would highly recommend it!

The premise of the movie is that Evan is a new senator and wants to change the world. He prays and asks God to help him do just that. His wife on the other hand, prays that God will bring them closer together as a family, as a result of this new senatorial job.

In the course of a conversation, this question is asked, "Will God just make us closer as a family or will He give us opportunity to become closer as a family?" It was a great question, but I did not pay much heed to it at the time.

So now you are up to speed....

Our Grace tends to think that the world revolves around her! She is the typical baby of the family and we have enabled that! Well life as she has known it is over!! This new strategy on Jay and I's part has created much complaining from Grace! GO FIGURE!! Last night was nothing new. Dinner complaining! "The meat is too tough!" "I can't chew it!" All the complaining led to some consequences she was not happy with.

When it came to bed time and prayer time, She and I said our prayers and specifically prayed for her to be able to realize that she is not a baby any longer. After we were done, Grace asked," do you think Evan Almighty was right." I was perplexed as to exactly what she was talking about so I replied, " about what?" To which she responded, " Well I need to stop complaining. I prayed and asked God to make me stop complaining. Do you think He will just make me stop or is He going to give me opportunities to stop? Is He going to give me opportunities where I would normally complain and see if I can not complain!"

I told her Evan Almighty was right!

Today she is looking for those opportunities where she normally complains and see if she can not!

Monday, February 04, 2008

My Funniest Super Bowl EVER!

Laura and I chose to watch the Super Bowl just the two of us last night. After back to back shows in Alpena and Alma, we were a bit torched and didn't feel like going to a party. So, we donned the sweat pants and poured some Diet Dew and watched a great game with some really LAME commercials.

I don't remember when, but at one point I said to Laura, did you see the move that guy made out there? The defender "lost his jock strap!". Now for those of you who don't follow sports "lost his jock strap" is simply a phrase one uses when describing a man who really got faked out...anyway

Laura replied, "Is that what I saw laying in the middle of the field?" I just looked at her and shook my head with a grin of unbelief on my face. Realizing how dizzy her remark was, we both broke out in outright laughter. I said that would be quite a feat to see wouldn't it? It's not as funny in print as it was at the time, but needless to say we laughed the rest of the night anytime there was a good play!

Hope your team won!

Jay & Laura

Friday, February 01, 2008

Reality Check

Today is REALITY CHECK day. We basked in the after-glow of the cruise for as long as we could. Today however the cold harsh snowy reality of Michigan is upon us.

The kids are out of school, there are times I can't see my neighbors house across the street and in an hour Laura and I have to drive to Alpena Michigan for an Ultimate Date Night!

We're excited as we head to Alpena, just a bit nervous about the weather. The response to our Ultimate Date Nights has been PHENOMENAL. Three of our first four shows are at or nearly "SOLD OUT!"

Our "UDN's" are really a great concept. Music, Comedy and fun for couples. For $15 (the price of a movie) a couple can laugh, engage each other and walk away remembering why they fell in love in the first place. It's a great way to inspire couples to CELEBRATE!

Hope to see you all at one soon!

Blessings~

Jay & Laura

Tuesday, January 29, 2008

OH the sunshine!


Oh how I miss the sunshine! The cruise was fabulous! Now I need to let you know it was not the just sunshine but the people were fabulous also! Jay and I hosted our second annual Celebrate Your Marriage cruise last week. We were joined on the high seas by 40 couples from different parts of the country! We had folks from Arizona, Texas, Kansas, Illinois, Indiana, Michigan, the Carolinas, and more!

The most fun for me was dining with the folks. There is just something about eating and talking that just makes for great memories.

I do have to tell you that one thing I have told Jay is that on these cruises I will try things like snorkeling. Things that scare me but I know I can do if I just will try. Well, this cruise I tried para-sailing! It was so awesome to be hanging up above the water and relax and enjoy the ride!

Relax today and enjoy the ride the Lord is taking you on!

Friday, January 18, 2008

Life Explained & Cruising!

On the first day, God created the dog and said: "Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or walks past. For this, I will give you a life span of twenty years."

The dog said: "That's a long time to be barking. How about only ten years and I'll give you back the other ten?" So God agreed.

On the second day, God created the monkey and said: "Entertain people, do tricks, and make them laugh. For this, I'll give you a twenty-year life span."

The monkey said: "Monkey tricks for twenty years? That's a pretty long time to perform. How about I give you back ten like the dog did?"

And God agreed.

On the third day, God created the cow and said: "You must go into the field with the farmer all day long and suffer under the sun, have calves and give milk to support the farmer's family. For this, I will give you a life span of sixty years."

The cow said: "That's kind of a tough life you want me to live for sixty years. How about twenty and I'll give you back the other forty?"

And God agreed again.

On the fourth day, God created man and said: "Eat, sleep, play, marry and enjoy your life. For this, I'll give you twenty years."

But man said: "Only twenty years? Could you possibly give me my twenty, the forty the cow gave back, the ten the monkey gave back, and the ten the dog gave back; that makes eighty, okay?"

"Okay," said God, "You asked for it."

So that is why for our first twenty years we eat, sleep, play and enjoy ourselves. For the next forty years we slave in the sun to support our family. For the next ten years we do monkey tricks to entertain the grandchildren, and for the last ten years we sit on the front porch and bark at everyone.

Life has now been explained to you!

You won't hear from us for a few days....WE'RE ON A CRUISE!!!!

Blessings~

Jay & Laura